Why is it that when we’re a jerk or a punk, it’s usually towards the person or people we love the most? We bark, grumble and growl… we ignore and blow-off… and all of this in the face of someone who loves us. We still manage to smile & speak kindly to complete strangers or acquaintances – the waiter, bank teller, neighbor or barista. But we can be such idiots to our spouse or kids or parents or closest friends…
I wish I could say that this blog comes from a person who is not guilty of such ridiculous behavior, but that would be a lie. I’m guilty. I’m careless and take for granted those I love SO much. And, I’m determined to change this.
So, why do we do it? Why do we take for granted the very people God has given us as priceless gifts? I certainly don’t have all the answers for this – since I still do it… but, I know that the root is obvious: selfishness… SIN. We take the love of others (even God) for granted – telling ourselves, “well, they HAVE to love me”… so stupid and mean! Our insecurity still feels the pressure to impress outsiders – we don’t want them to think less of us – yet, we’re careless & heartless at home. I think another reason we do this is: laziness (also a sin).
Yeah, it’s work to deny yourself and prefer those that God has put in your life. It requires a conscious effort to be like Jesus, even when you don’t feel like it or feel that ‘they’ deserve it. At times, we must labor to kill the pride & give the love… But, it’s such
good GREAT work! And, it pays BIG dividends – like: peace, joy, fun, love and rest.
- Are you, like me, guilty of hurting love?
- Do you need to repent right now?
- Will you make it right with those you’ve hurt?
- How will you improve and overcome these tendencies or behavior?
I’ve got some work to do right now.