Too Much Me

Chilly —  August 28, 2014 — 13 Comments
morning hair - no filter

morning hair – no filter

So, here’s some random stuff about me – in no particular order … for the most part, this is an absolutely pointless, random blog  – so many things that you simply DON’T want or need to know. Enjoy (or not)… it’s entirely up to you!


    1. I love seafood and hate cinnamon.
    2. I try to run and eat right every day (don’t laugh).
    3. I’ve jumped off 80′ cliffs but never parachuted from an airplane or bungeed off a bridge.
    4. I’ve been to 49 states – still waiting on Alaska – hmm, you know, I’m not sure IF I’ve been to Oregon – I think I was… so, maybe 48!
    5. Three MUSTS for my vacation: Sun, Surf and Sand. LOVE the beach & ocean!
    6. I’ve almost died a few times – high fever as child – killer bee sting as adult.
    7. I was healed of deafness at age 5.
    8. I started for my college baseball & golf teams (now I hate golf)…
    9. I love single-origin coffee, sourced through artisan roasters, precision brewed via multiple methods (pour-overs, cold press, chemex, etc). And, I’ll still drink Starbucks too!
    10. I’ve shared Christ’s love with people on 4 continents… perhaps more someday.
    11. When I was in Bible College, I was told by a faculty member that I should quit because: “I wasn’t ministry material”…
    12. I’m an Apple guy (MacBook, iPad, iPhone, etc) – never going back to PC.
    13. I get up each morning BEFORE my wife and AFTER my wife… confused?!
    14. The states that I have lived in are: Ohio, California, Tennessee, Iowa, Minnesota, Pennsylvania, Indiana and Michigan.
    15. When I was a junior in high school I weighed 105 lbs and was only 5’4″ tall. Then I grew 8″ and put on 60 pounds over the summer before my senior year.
    16. Last year I read almost 60 books (plus Bible) – this year, God told me NOT to buy any books and ironically I have been given almost 40!!  Note: I read most books in 2-4 days…
    17. I hate reading.
    18. I have over 500 people listen to my podcast each week – I can’t stand to listen to myself for more than 5 minutes – how do the rest of you take it?! Seriously!!
    19. I have only worn a neck tie (aka: noose) 3-4 times since May 2002… weddings…
    20. I buy just about anything/everything on eBay, Amazon or other internet sites – I rarely shop in stores and when I do, it’s an outlet.
    21. A passage that I’m loving right now is, “The whole point of what we’re urging is simply love—love uncontaminated by self-interest and counterfeit faith, a life open to God. Those who fail to keep to this point soon wander off into cul-de-sacs of gossip. They set themselves up as experts on religious issues, but haven’t the remotest idea of what they’re holding forth with such imposing eloquence” 1 Timothy 1:5-7 msg.
    22. I journal a lot … I think it’s essential to my sanity.
    23. I’ve lived and served in Detroit for OVER 10 years — that’s longer than I’ve lived anywhere my entire life!
    24. I’M IN LOVE: Jesus, Netta, my kids, my family/friends, my church and my city! I will FIGHT for any of them!!
    25. You’re cool.

Well, that’s it!  I’m done.  Comment about any of these items
or none of them… not sure why I even did the list…  bye!

My Take on Ferguson

Chilly —  August 21, 2014 — 2 Comments

A:  I’m praying for peace. 

- I’m not the judge, jury, victim, police or mob. I don’t know all the facts. I DO know…

- I’m praying for the Brown family & friends.

- I’m praying for the Wilson family & friends.

- I’m praying for law enforcement, investigators, community leaders, pastors and Christians in Ferguson.

- I’m praying for justice.

- I hate racism.

- I hate violence. 

- I hate HATE.

- God LOVES ALL people and this is my heart as well.

- God’s LOVE reconciles, forgives, heals and restores. 

- Praying is far more useful than posting opinions & judgements. 

- I’m doing all I can in Detroit to reach people with Christ’s love BEFORE tragedy happens … AND after tragedy happens.

- Wherever you are, MAKE A DIFFERENCE. Love others TODAY.

Praying, Serving and Loving,

Hurting Love

Chilly —  August 19, 2014 — 3 Comments

love-hurtsWhy is it that when we’re a jerk or a punk, it’s usually towards the person or people we love the most? We bark, grumble and growl…  we ignore and blow-off… and all of this in the face of someone who loves us.  We still manage to smile & speak kindly to complete strangers or acquaintances – the waiter, bank teller, neighbor or barista.  But we can be such idiots to our spouse or kids or parents or closest friends…

I wish I could say that this blog comes from a person who is not guilty of such ridiculous behavior, but that would be a lie. I’m guilty. I’m careless and take for granted those I love SO much. And, I’m determined to change this.

So, why do we do it?  Why do we take for granted the very people God has given us as priceless gifts? I certainly don’t have all the answers for this – since I still do it… but, I know that the root is obvious: selfishness… SIN. We take the love of others (even God) for granted – telling ourselves, “well, they HAVE to love me”… so stupid and mean! Our insecurity still feels the pressure to impress outsiders – we don’t want them to think less of us – yet, we’re careless & heartless at home. I think another reason we do this is: laziness (also a sin). 

Yeah, it’s work to deny yourself and prefer those that God has put in your life. It requires a conscious effort to be like Jesus, even when you don’t feel like it or feel that ‘they’ deserve it. At times, we must labor to kill the pride & give the love… But, it’s such good GREAT work!  And, it pays BIG dividends – like: peace, joy, fun, love and rest. 

    • Are you, like me, guilty of hurting love?
    • Do you need to repent right now?
    • Will you make it right with those you’ve hurt?
    • How will you improve and overcome these tendencies or behavior?

I’ve got some work to do right now.

Determined to improve… Chilly

My Take on Haters

Chilly —  August 18, 2014 — Leave a comment


A:  I love them. 

- I’m sorry that they are unhappy. 

- I wish they didn’t choose to gossip, blame or remain hurt.

- I’ve probably done lots of things that, to a carnal heart, deserve hate.

Sigh… please forgive me… again.

- Forgiveness really does work.

- Giving the benefit of the doubt may seem naive but it works too.

- Unconditional love works even better. 

- Doesn’t mean you shouldn’t move on … just do it right (and quietly).

- Grace.

- Someone else has it FAR worse than you. Be thankful. Love others.

“No mature Christian who is seasoned in the Word has
any right to live offended.”
Pastor Brian Houston, Hillsong

One last thing:
(in case you missed it)



Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful
or proud 
or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable,
and it keeps no record of being wronged.”
1 Corinthians 13:4-5

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Sunscreen & Sunglasses

Chilly —  August 17, 2014 — Leave a comment

From my personal journal today (and family devotions on the beach).



I love going to the beach! LOVE IT! And, yet there’s something about going to the beach that I hate! Yeah, I do it, but I hate it… applying sunscreen! Especially, when there’s 7 people needing it (in varying degrees of protection: SPF 50, 30, 15, etc). The process takes us 15 minutes or more — and, then, at some point on the beach we must reapply — but this time we’re sort of gritty from the sand.

As much as I dislike applying sunscreen, I DO IT. I hate sunburn FAR worse! And, I’m also aware that neglect today could result in much greater problems later: skin cancer. We don’t think about cancer when we’re younger — sunburn is just how we start our tans. Stupid, right?!

It’s easy as Christians to be careless and stupid when it comes to exposing our hearts and minds to the sins and dangers of the world. We’ve all been burned and damaged by the fiery attack from the enemy. We need to apply protection – daily (or more) and liberally.

I know some that choose to live in the shadows with pale faith — fearing worldly damage so much that they avoid lost people all together. That’s not God’s plan. No, we must put on the protection provided and then get out there and make a difference. Find the sunscreen here:

“Put on all of God’s armor so that you will be able to stand firm against all strategies of the devil.” Ephesians 6:11( read: v. 12-18)
– Also read: 2 Corinthians 10:3-5

Don’t become lazy or indifferent by forgetting to reapply. We need the power of the Holy Spirit that comes through DAILY (or more) application of God’s Word and authentic prayer.


The other thing we need to enjoy a day on the beach is sunglasses. This year I purchased a pair of sunglasses that are super dark — designed specifically, to protect from sun reflection on the ocean (water).

Sunglasses do 2 primary things: they protect our eyes from damage. Did you know you can sunburn your eyes — OUCH! And, sunglasses, help us focus. You see better when the glare is diverted and your not forced to squint through watery eyes.

The lenses of our ‘sunglasses’ should be God’s Love. When we see others through these lenses — everything becomes more clear and beautiful. What comes through them — like damaging sun, is filtered into vivid clarity. We are protected from insecurity, fear, doubt and hurt. And, then when we look back out through the love of God, we see ONLY good.

Looking through these lenses should also cause us to stop being so selfish, judgmental and rude.

“Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. 4 Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too. 5 You must have the same attitude that Christ Jesus had.” Philippians 2:3-5

Sometimes Sunscreen and Sunglasses may seem over-the-top or unnecessary, but they protect and preserve you. And, now, each time you use them, perhaps you’ll be reminded of God’s Armor & God’s Love — wear BOTH daily!