Chilly —  October 16, 2014 — 11 Comments

Today I deactivated my Facebook account.

Gasp! What?! Why??

I know, I know! Crazy, right?!

I had 4,211 Facebook friends. I was Administrator of 4 Facebook pages and 2 Facebook groups. Probably had a combined influence of nearly 10,000 people.  And…

I’m done.

I could give you several personal, specific, reasons for this action. We had some security concerns and I made a decision best for my family.  I also made the decision to refocus my time, attention, interactions and rest.

Here’s a few other questions or thoughts that played into this decision:

  • quitting-facebookWhy do we spend so much time trying to maintain relationships, statuses and expectations of people online and so little time loving and serving our family, neighbors and community?
  • How much time do we waste or sleep do we lose lost in social media?
  • Do you have any idea of how many potentially dangerous entities exist on the other side of our computer screen or handheld device? Have you looked closely at these sites on your spouse’s or children’s smart phones and laptops? A few sites: Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Snapchat, YouNow, Kik, Youtube, Vine, Vimeo, Pinterest, OooVoo, Pheed, Wanelo, Reddit, and MORE! Overwhelmed yet? Any of these could introduce loved ones to predators, pornography, fraud or worse!
  • Yep, I know there’s good things that happen via social media — that’s why I’m not telling you to stop. I’m telling ME to back off and refocus. I’m evaluating each media application and seeking to minimize my activity and accessibility.
  • The people who truly love you and desire to know, WILL CONNECT WITH YOU. Rather than a random, “hey you” that leads to hours of mindless chatter rarely producing authentic relationship, focus on people you can look at, touch and do life with…
  • Facebook was step one. I’m evaluating ALL applications and sites. I’m excited to simplify.
  • It’s ok to use social media but DON’T let it use you.

Well, that’s my street corner, megaphone, blog-post rant. Are you still here??  Yeah? Cool! Then let me throw a couple verses at you that I’m meditating on today:

Set your minds on things that are above, not on things that are on earth. For you have died, and your life is hidden with Christ in God. Colossians 3:2-3

IF you still want to be connected online, you can subscribe to this blog – there’s a place for your email address in the top right. I’d also welcome a coffee in person sometime!

Thanks again for being in my life — for praying for me, reading my stuff and spurring me on! My life is enriched through true friendships!  Love, Chilly


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Chilly is a follower of Christ, husband of a queen and father of avengers. Executive Director of Instagram: @thechillychilton Twitter: @iChilly "I LOVE: my wife Netta, our 5 amazing kids, Buckeyes, good coffee, U2, Nike shoes, anything Apple, sushi, my dog Jack, beach vacations, sports, books & YOU!"

11 responses to ReFocus

  1. Be free! You are awesome and I love your blog!

  2. I support you in this pastor. I deactivated mine a little while ago and ended up setting up an Artist page for my work instead. I feel it’s a way to still stay connected to Facebook but in a more professional, productive and detached manner – I don’t get to use the news feed, among other things – and I like that I’m not wasting a bunch of time anymore on it.

    • Thanks Jimmy! I thought this had been a decision of yours because I actually looked for you recently when I had a post that I thought you would enjoy!

  3. Hey Chilly been really thinking along the same lines recently glad I can still
    keep up with ya on this . Jenine

  4. Steve Kolarchick October 16, 2014 at 6:29 pm

    Welcome to the no Facebook club!!! Let’s start a movement!! Life without Facebook is awesome!! Love and support you PC!!

  5. I support you in your decision and I’m also glad you did not stand in judgment of others who may stay on. I am trying to not be on as much as I am for my writing platform.
    I’m still hoping to get to Detroit sometime and experience your ministry. I have to get a different job with more paid time off at this point.

    • Mollie, I know that Facebook is a blessing to MANY! In fact, it’s a lifeline for my father (find and follow him: Fred Chilton — he posts a thought each day). I don’t condemn those that do not follow my decision. I’ve been encouraged often though Facebook and it may be the fastest method of sharing needs and prayer requests. It simply is not for me at this time.

  6. Great thoughts, Chilly, and so true! I wish we COULD join you for coffee! 🙂 We love you!

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