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Chilly —  May 2, 2016 — 2 Comments

reck·on·ing   [rek–uh-ning]

the avenging of past mistakes or misdeeds.

reckoningDo you ever wonder what we’re really doing or at least supposed to be doing? Why are our methods, passion, and approach all greeted with such resistance, fear or doubt? Why are people in the community more intrigued by and engaged in transformation than people in the church? Why no one seems to be able to find the correct phrase or word to describe us? Are we nameless?

I’ve been thinking a lot about this…

What makes us any different from previous pioneers, revolutionaries or trailblazers of the faith?  Are our ideas so unique? Are sermons more inspiring? …hardly. Is it our tech toys, websites, blog pages, crazy videos, or loud music? … no, I don’t think so. Maybe it’s our jeans & t-shirt Sunday attire.  Ha, that’s not it either – but it’s definitely a perk! 

So, what makes us different? Why all the books, conferences, articles with words like: engaging, convergent, relevant, next generation, influential, mosaic, story-telling, etc.? You know what, I don’t know either…

Maybe the labels and titles came from the rigid, controlling, established, religious, on-their-way-out, leadership of organized churches & denominations. We tend to fear what we don’t understand, and a label always helps us sum up something we don’t really get… was that offensive – I’m sorry – that’s not my intention. Honest. I’m not picking a fight.

You see, I don’t think we’re really that unique. From the first century church to where we are today, there has been a need for individuals or groups of believers that stand up and bring radical correction to the waywardness or blandness of the church Jesus planted. Throughout history there has been a need to get back to the main thing:  Salvation, discipleship, and community.

When we stray from the foundation, we tend to take ourselves too seriously and the results are tragic: religion replaces relationship, selfishness replaces simplicity, lust for power replaces love for people, control replaces compassion, greed replaces grace, jealousy replaces joyfulness, conflict replaces courage, and frustration replaces freedom. Has this happened in your church (or mine)? Oh man, just the thought of this makes my heart hurts…

It’s easy to fall into this and hard to climb out – but, we must!  [Warning: Rant in 3, 2, 1 …] And, I don’t think the answer is to abandon ship – kick dirt on your church, or walk away because ‘they’ won’t change and only YOU know what authentic Christianity is – and, then use social media and toxic small groups to validate your righteousness & meekness (receiving applauds & pity from every ‘hurt’ leader) – grow up, shut up & move on – gracefully. [end of Rant]

For the rest of us, still in it to win it, let’s begin our adventure back to truth & life TODAY! It’s time for a holy reckoning to happen in and through you. I want a better church for my kids and the generations to follow – better doesn’t mean “new” – actually it’s just getting back to the book of Acts and living it in the 21st century. It may be simplifying: Love God, Love Others & Love Life.

Yeah, labels will come… judgments will be made… shunning could happen. Embrace it. And do what you’re made to do – be who HE made you to be. The message IS sacred, the method is not... keep that straight and LISTEN, LEARN, LIVE, and LOVE!  The lost are all around us – they’re looking for something genuine & trustworthy — someone to help them find the truth. Making disciples is still the Great CommissionYOU ARE NEEDED.  It’s time.

                                one to be reckoned with,

Q: What needs a day of ‘reckoning‘ in your life or leadership today?


Chilly —  February 15, 2015 — Leave a comment


Have you ever listened to yourself?  Do you hear life or death?  Do you hear love or hate?  I’ve been thinking a lot about this…  Here’s some wisdom I found to help me choose my words more wisely:

  • “If someone were to pay you 10 cents for every kind word you ever spoke and collect from you 5 cents for every unkind word, would you be rich or poor?”  ~ Author Unknown

  • “Speak when you are angry — and you will make the best speech you’ll ever regret.” ~ Laurence J. Peter

  • “Kind words can be short and easy to speak but their echoes are endless.” ~ Mother Theresa

  • “By swallowing evil words unsaid, no one has ever harmed his stomach.” ~ Sir Winston Churchill

  • “Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain – and most fools do.” ~ Dale Carnegie

  • “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Proverbs 12:18

  • “Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul, health to the bones.” Proverbs 16:24

  • “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” wrote wise King Solomon, Proverbs 18:21

  • “You’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious — the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.” Philippians 4:8

  • “We will have to give an account on the day of judgment for every careless word spoken” Mathew 12:36

    And, as I pray each time before I preach or teach…

    May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart  be pleasing in your sight,  O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer. Psalm 19:14

watchin’ my words, Chilly

Loathes with a Passion

Chilly —  June 20, 2014 — 1 Comment

Here are six things God hates, and,
one more that he loathes with a passion

7-backlinks1.  eyes that are arrogant,

2.  a tongue that lies,

3.  hands that murder the innocent,

4.  a heart that hatches evil plots,

5.  feet that race down a wicked track,

6.  a mouth that lies under oath,

7.  a troublemaker in the family.

Proverbs 6:16-19 msg.

Hmmm…  many, if not most, of those things are somewhat avoidable – or at least should be, however, what really jumped out at me today as I studied Prov. 6, was that one that it says God  “loathes with a passion” – a troublemaker in the family (in your home or your church).  Wow. It’s so easy to think it’s no big deal when you are provoking others, complaining about them, and always finding fault in ‘the house’ or just being lazy & indifferent. Maybe you think, “well I don’t like the leadership or I don’t respect what’s happening”… my friend, IF God put you in the house, you’re to show respect and do your part JOYFULLY and thoroughly without complaining, starting trouble, pouting or running away. The Lord is developing character in you through submission and loving obedience.

We should hate the things God hates.

No justification or expecting everyone else to figure out when you’re ‘joking’ or ‘messin’ – simply STOP. Prefer others. Believe in others. ENJOY OTHERS! We all have faults. We all make mistakes. But, love covers a multitude of sins. 


    • Are you ready to eliminate ALL seven?


    • Do you hate the things God hates? Note: God doesn’t hate people, just sin.


    • Will you choose, joyful and gracious, peace?

lovin’ the family, chilly


Honest thoughts about Doubt.

Chilly —  June 27, 2013 — 15 Comments

Do you ever wrestle with overwhelming doubt? I do.

neverdoubtWe know God’s got a plan and that His timing is perfect, but we begin to wonder IF we’re the right person for His plan and IF we missed or ignored His promptings. In times like this, I bombard my brain with questions like: IF this is God’s will, why do we still struggle with finances? Why don’t more people get excited about it? When will we catch a break? Who can I contact to help? Am I what’s hindering our progress?

It often seems like people love what we’re doing but only from a distance. If you push for more involvement, commitment or support; they disappear into the shadows. Face it, we need more than Facebook friends or Twitter followers — we long for genuine relationships right in the trenches where we do war. We need people standing with us not pointing at us. Doubt says they don’t exist (or at least not for you)…

Doubt is a punk! He’s a hater, poser and crippler. He causes you to focus on your feelings and fears. He distracts you from spending time with Jesus and reading God’s Word. Doubt causes you to withdraw, take fewer risks and entertain depression. I HATE DOUBT!

On Tuesday night, I engaged in a twitter discussion about “doubt” with those connected with People of the Second Chance (POTSC). I thought I would share a few of my tweets from the discussion:

  • Right decisions are simply acts in obedience to the purposes of God. He will lead us right through doubt & on to destiny!
  • When I doubt myself I feel disconnected from God. Because I know He has no doubts (even in me).
  • Doubts are stepping stones across the river of defeat – certainty awaits on the other side… so, MOVE!
  • “Do all things without grumbling or questioning” Philippians 2:14… of course, this was spoken to single focused believers.
  • Selfishness & insecurity are constantly trying to replace faith with flesh. We want to feel everything NOW.

I’m learning to doubt my doubts!

Q: Where are YOU at with doubt?

stepping on & over my doubts,