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Too Tough NOT to Love!

Chilly —  February 1, 2016 — 2 Comments

“Love means loving the unlovable – or it has no virtue at all.”
– G.K. Chesterton

broken-heartMinistry Paradox:

We want EVERYONE to love us, but KNOW they won’t… 

In fact, some we love the most will HATE us! 



come on, let’s talk about this in the comments…

Rope Holding

Chilly —  February 7, 2015 — Leave a comment

So during the night, some of the other believers lowered him in a large basket through an opening in the city wall. Acts 9:25

hold_the_ropeThese nameless men risked their lives to save a stranger. And, this stranger would become the greatest missionary of all time.

There is NO small decision.

I’m still learning.

Chilly —  October 10, 2014 — 7 Comments

Notes from my journal
(This Sunday we celebrate 10
years of ministry in Detroit.)

Things I’m learning today

… that I had NO clue about 10 years ago.
Part TWO.

You kids are capable of SO much more than you can even begin to imagine!

  • my FIVE heroesWhen we begin, we had three little girls (ages 12, 8 and 4). Since then, we have added to boys! So, we are now: Mariah 22, Courtney 18, Zoe 14, Maximus 9 and Chase 8.
  • They have had to adjust to various types of schooling (public school, home school, charter school, online school).
  • They have had to adjust to various types of sports leagues (Upward, Homeschool, PAL, Community).
  • They have had to adjust to various types of church buildings, leaders, people & programs (Hamtramck, Midtown, Mexicantown … Bars, Apartment Penthouse, Nightclubs, Bowling Allies, Church buildings).
  • My adult daughters are leading ministry with joy and passion. And my younger kids can’t wait to be at church or at outreach or whatever is happening! They LOVE IT!
  • They’ve had people come in and out of their lives. They have seen people fail. They certainly are eye-witnesses to my flaws & short-comings.
  • But, they have also seen hundreds & hundreds come to know Jesus. They have seen miracles. They have seen, experienced and expressed unconditional love.
  • And, most important, they EACH have a very real, personal, relationship with Christ.

I can’t even imagine all that God is doing and about to do IN and THROUGH each of their lives. They are my heroes!

Blood is thicker than water, but Spirit is thicker than blood.

  • This is a quote from my friend, Pastor Tim Dilena — he spoke this in reference to our family & friends in the faith.
  • One of the hardest things about being in full-time ministry is living far away from your family. Netta has family in Colorado and Kansas; I have family in Missouri, Minnesota and Georgia.
  • So, we are rarely with our natural families – especially when most people enjoy these times: holidays, birthdays and special events.
  • As much as we miss our natural family, our lives and home are filled with spiritual brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, sons and daughters. There’s a bond with those we serve with, that God has given us, that is powerful, personal and awesome!
  • We hope our kids will always live close and serve alongside us but if God leads them away — we are confident that He will surround them with spiritual family.

Thank you to BOTH our natural and spiritual families. WE LOVE YOU!

God doesn’t always lead through policy manuals, flow-charts and business plans.

  • Yes, I know that God is a God of order. But, I also know that sometimes ministry can be (or appear to be) messy, crazy and chaotic.
  • We’re working with people not machines. People are weird. People break down suddenly. People change. People die.
  • Our processes may not allow for the unpredictable wonderfulness, found in people.
  • Yes, we should have a plan. There should be organization.
  • But, we also must recognize that discipleship cannot be done in vacuum or delegated. It’s personal and every person is different.

Spirituality is a mixed-up, topsy-turvy, helter-skelter godliness that turns our lives into an upside-down toboggan ride of unexpected turns, surprise bumps and bone shattering crashes … a life ruined by a Jesus who loves us right into his arms. Mike Yanconelli

Yes, I will still trust the policies, constitution and by-laws, programs, and plans created by amazing servants of the Lord. But, I will not be limited by these things. They are the launchpad not the rocket ship!

IF you missed Part One, be sure to scroll down!


Chilly —  May 14, 2014 — 9 Comments

9 Reasons Why 10 Leadership Lessons
may be 8 Too many or 3 Too Short!


Have you ever thought about why so many people use numbered lists for every profound thought or idea? Really, why??

Seems like most leadership or ministry posts that I read always have whatever topic the author is choosing to discuss broken down into a certain number of points … and, they promote it by saying “Eight Ways to…” or “Ten Proven Lessons…” or whatever! It kind of makes it sound like they’re saying that they have found the exact amount of answers or truths on the topic they’re presenting. I think it was man, not God, that called the TEN COMMANDMENTS by that title — because there were MORE than ten and, as we see in the New Testament, there are also less than TEN! And, no, this is not my attempt to minimize the importance of the Ten Commandments – they were distinct & written on tablets – but, were they numbered & titled?

I guess what I’m saying is that I read, so often, titles of books or posts with numbers stated in such a way that it implies ‘that’s it, I’ve discovered the exact amount’ … now, of course, this post is being presented tongue-in-cheek! I’m not picking a fight or trying to offend. I understand that there may be no spiritually redeeming value in this post. And, I must admit, I use lists too… I simply would love some dialog on the subject of “Why Number EVERYTHING?!” Or, why present the numbered list as if it’s the definitive list? Ok, that’s it! Blow up the comments on this!

Then I’ll take all the comments presented and make a list of
THE SEVEN Reasons People Use Numbers” Ha!

Your opinion counts (not that I’m counting),