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Living a Riddle.

Chilly —  February 2, 2016 — 50 Comments
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Have you ever found yourself absolutely lost right in the middle of God’s perfect will? It’s like you totally know that He has you where He has you for a purpose — there’s obvious signs that there’s destiny in your existence — and yet, there’s so much uncertainty and wonder. It’s not a fear thing, or even a confusion thing; because God’s right there. And yet, you still find yourself holding your breath at times as you stare into space searching for significance and some sort of structure that puts everything into perspective.

LifeIsRiddleYou are confident of God’s calling but you can’t seem to find the job description, title, position or opportunity to do the things that make you come totally alive. You feel like you’re close… really close but, then again, you’re not even sure that you would know it if you ran right into it. Like lava churning in your heart, when you try to explain what’s happening, even to God, it blows like a volcano in all directions, loudly, quickly and recklessly.

So, you press on. Serve. Listen. Wait…

I don’t want those who read this to think I’ve lost my mind, but then again, I certainly don’t want them to think I’ve got it all together either. In the last year I’ve been called ‘pastor’ at two great churches, I’ve also been called: husband, father, son, brother, leader, minister, presbyter, entrepreneur, mentor, speaker, coach, friend, neighbor, director, reverend, staff, evangelist, barista, discipler and captain. That’s a lot of hats to wear! And, I’m still not sure that I’m doing all that I’m supposed to be doing (or not doing). Continue Reading…

MayDay!

Chilly —  May 1, 2014 — 4 Comments

Whoa… can you believe it’s already MAY?? 

The reality of this truth is a bit overwhelming for me! It’s undeniable that NOW through September is going to scream by SO FAST! Lots of speaking, weddings, conferences, soccer games, outreaches, preaching, traveling, events and vacation! ALL good stuff and LOTS of it!

MayDayMay 1st is often referred to as “May Day” but, instead, for me it’s “Mayday!” which is an international distress call meaning “come help me!”

This evening, after a great lunch with my wife, then driving to two hospitals (one by mistake) to visit an adorable baby, and then running a few errands, having a several phone appointments, replying to double-digit emails, spending two hours mentoring some pastors & leaders, studying,  coming home late to kiss my kids goodnight, and finally sitting down to a cup of british tea with honey… I thought, my life is so freakin’ crazy! And, it’s about to get even crazier! Have I mentioned that I serve as a pastor at TWO churches 90 miles apart?   Continue Reading…

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Disclaimer: I wrote this in my journal late, late last night (around 4am). It’s a glimpse into things I’m thinking and feeling — it is not meant to critique or attack other churches/ministers. Please read through this filter. 

Do you remember when God called you?

  • was it after getting the results of your ACT or SAT exam?
  • did it come in a certified letter?
  • were you walking through a job fair?
  • did it come with a paycheck?

CalledProbably not, right? It was probably more spontaneous, crazy and epic than a human designed promotion. It was supernatural, right? It made you insanely excited and totally overwhelmed all at the same time! You had the thought, ‘there’s no way I can do this’ and yet, you also KNEW, ‘ there’s no way that I CAN’T do this!

Maybe I’m just weird, but I’m more than a little concerned about what’s happening in what we call ‘Christianity’ – specifically within our leadership. Way too many pastors seem too burned out, depressed, suicidal, wimpy and self-loathing. Some have begun to sound like excuse-making complainers. They’re lonely, hated, misunderstood, tapped-out, and overwhelmed. I hate seeing this! I want to help!!

Yep, I too have been beaten-up (a little bit physically, somewhat spiritually and a lot emotionally). I’ve been robbed, betrayed and played. I’ve been out of money, abandoned, over-worked and super tired. SO WHAT!

It’s not like Jesus and the Bible didn’t warn us. And, it’s not like Jesus and the Bible didn’t tell us what to do when this stuff happened. Jesus said, “Take heart!” not “take cover!”

Being miserable, cynical or sarcastic IS NOT the answer! Neither is quitting.

Turning the body of Christ into God’s robot isn’t the answer, either! Our need to control is making our lives out-of-control and stressed out. 

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This is a blog post by Matt Boswell, pastor at Redemption Church.

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When Ellen and I were first married ministry was not our 20-year plan, the Navy was. We had it all planned out; we were to spend the next 20 years with me being gone for 15. The Navy explained to my sweet new bride how grueling it would be, that I would be gone often and that even when I was around my mind would be elsewhere. Knowing that my particular career path in the Navy would be a marriage destroyer I pursued a discharge for the pursuit of higher education. With the promise of a difficult future behind us we embarked upon an easier dream where everyone would love us and things would be calm: pastoral service.

Twenty plus years later I can tell you it has been a ride we never could have anticipated. So much so that only now do I feel equipped enough to share a few things I either lacked the clarity or courage to share until this season of life. I want to share the 10 things we as pastors don’t really want you to know about us. Now in doing so my aim is not to rat out my fellow pastors. Nor am I doing this so congregants sleep with one eye open regarding their leadership. My intention is precisely the opposite. I hope that from this:

  • Churches will pray all the more for their pastors because they understand the challenges.
  • Churches will be doubly grateful for the fact that so many pastors stay in the saddle despite their fears, hurts and frustrations.
  • People in churches will think twice before engaging in things that sink deep into the soul of their leaders.

Therefore I give a glimpse into what we as pastors don’t like to admit about ourselves.

#1. We Take It Personally When You Leave The Church.

It’s just a straight up fact. We pastors eat, drink and sleep the local church and with that have a deep desires to see it thrive. Therefore when you leave to another church because…

  • you’re bothered by a recent decision, but didn’t ask about it…
  • the new church has a bigger and better kids wing, youth group, worship team, building space, (fill in your blank)…
  • your friends started going there…

… it hits us personally.

For us it feels disloyal, shallow or consumer driven. People affirm that church is a family, thus when you up and leave because the church down the road has Slurpee dispensers, a fog machine or it’s just cooler, well it jams us pretty deep.  Continue Reading…