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Chilly —  February 15, 2015 — Leave a comment


Have you ever listened to yourself?  Do you hear life or death?  Do you hear love or hate?  I’ve been thinking a lot about this…  Here’s some wisdom I found to help me choose my words more wisely:

  • “If someone were to pay you 10 cents for every kind word you ever spoke and collect from you 5 cents for every unkind word, would you be rich or poor?”  ~ Author Unknown

  • “Speak when you are angry — and you will make the best speech you’ll ever regret.” ~ Laurence J. Peter

  • “Kind words can be short and easy to speak but their echoes are endless.” ~ Mother Theresa

  • “By swallowing evil words unsaid, no one has ever harmed his stomach.” ~ Sir Winston Churchill

  • “Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain – and most fools do.” ~ Dale Carnegie

  • “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Proverbs 12:18

  • “Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul, health to the bones.” Proverbs 16:24

  • “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” wrote wise King Solomon, Proverbs 18:21

  • “You’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious — the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse.” Philippians 4:8

  • “We will have to give an account on the day of judgment for every careless word spoken” Mathew 12:36

    And, as I pray each time before I preach or teach…

    May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart  be pleasing in your sight,  O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer. Psalm 19:14

watchin’ my words, Chilly

Loathes with a Passion

Chilly —  June 20, 2014 — 1 Comment

Here are six things God hates, and,
one more that he loathes with a passion

7-backlinks1.  eyes that are arrogant,

2.  a tongue that lies,

3.  hands that murder the innocent,

4.  a heart that hatches evil plots,

5.  feet that race down a wicked track,

6.  a mouth that lies under oath,

7.  a troublemaker in the family.

Proverbs 6:16-19 msg.

Hmmm…  many, if not most, of those things are somewhat avoidable – or at least should be, however, what really jumped out at me today as I studied Prov. 6, was that one that it says God  “loathes with a passion” – a troublemaker in the family (in your home or your church).  Wow. It’s so easy to think it’s no big deal when you are provoking others, complaining about them, and always finding fault in ‘the house’ or just being lazy & indifferent. Maybe you think, “well I don’t like the leadership or I don’t respect what’s happening”… my friend, IF God put you in the house, you’re to show respect and do your part JOYFULLY and thoroughly without complaining, starting trouble, pouting or running away. The Lord is developing character in you through submission and loving obedience.

We should hate the things God hates.

No justification or expecting everyone else to figure out when you’re ‘joking’ or ‘messin’ – simply STOP. Prefer others. Believe in others. ENJOY OTHERS! We all have faults. We all make mistakes. But, love covers a multitude of sins. 


    • Are you ready to eliminate ALL seven?


    • Do you hate the things God hates? Note: God doesn’t hate people, just sin.


    • Will you choose, joyful and gracious, peace?

lovin’ the family, chilly


Noise Traffic

Chilly —  April 5, 2014 — 2 Comments

… a previous conversation between me and God.

I, normally, don’t mind noise, craziness, or even chaos – I seem to thrive under those kinds of circumstances! I mean, c’mon, I live and work right in the heart of Detroit and I have 5 kids and a dog! It’s a crazy-fun-noisy-little-world I live in! I love it!

Yet sometimes, even for me, there seems to be an inner calling for peace… I guess I just need things to chill a bit in order to really concentrate and hear what’s being said or grasp the bigger picture.  Vision is blurry or dim when decibels and distractions are out of control.


God speaks…   
“lately, Chilly, it’s been difficult for me to enjoy our time together – all the noise inside your head – the questions, comments, second-guessing, vain arguments, over-thinking, blah-blah-blah, it’s all too much!”  
        – yeah, He speaks to me like this.  Continue Reading…

Lamb Fight

Chilly —  November 19, 2013 — Leave a comment

Why do Christian fight with each other? Honestly, I really don’t get it. We’ll find fault, gossip and argue about the dumbest things! And, if we can just find one person to agree with us, than we MUST be right… IT STINKS! Some of the things that have become big-ticket argument topics are:

    • Theology. Calvinism vs. Arminianism or some version.
    • Lifestyle.  Too holy vs. Not holy enough.
    • Worship. rock band vs. pipe organ … intelligent lights vs. candles.
    • Politics. abortion vs. social justice… or pick 2 topics!
    • Building. new church vs. old church vs. house church.
    • Leadership. Pastors/Deacons/Elders vs. Directors/Team/Volunteers

AngryRamAnd the sad part is that these arguments, and MANY more (I’m being vague & nice), do not produce any GOOD lasting results – like lives accepting Christ as Savior & Lord. Instead they produce splits, fights, hurt, apathy, mistrust and pain.

We’re good at finding things to disagree about but fail in finding common ground. Christianity is not doctrine, theology, buildings and church services. Christianity is Christ. He died on the cross and rose from the dead. He is Lord. HE IS EVERYTHING.

Again I say, don’t get involved in foolish, ignorant arguments that only start fights. 24 A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach, and be patient with difficult people. 2 Timothy 2:23-24

 Over the last few weeks, Courage Church has been able to bless several area churches with supplies, instruments and equipment. And, at the same time, we have been blessed by other churches with lighting, sound equipment, a vehicle and gifts for needy children!  It’s a BLESSING TO BLESS and it’s SO WONDERFUL to receive BLESSINGS! This is how believers should live both personally and corporately.


For Discussion:

  1. Why do we get sucked into discussions, debates & arguments?
  2. What do these distractions keep ‘the church’ from doing and/or becoming?
  3. What do you think ‘the world’ thinks when they see us behave like this?
  4. Do you have any unforgiveness or bitterness that’s holding you back?
  5. Without writing a book, what’s the solution?

Disclaimer: I am FAR from perfect. I have messed up – hurt & been hurt – and felt pretty crappy! I’m truly striving to help our church community to see the bigger picture, live humbly, forgive completely and love without counting the cost – to give up our quest for uniqueness & individualism and become One in Christ. It’s a work in progress…

Special THANKS to: Christian Celebration Center and Rochester First Assembly! You BLESSED our socks off!

 Honored to serve,