When SUPER isn’t SUPER

Chilly —  November 17, 2012 — 7 Comments


• appearing to be true or real only until examined more closely.
• not thorough, deep, or complete.
• not having or showing any depth of character or understanding.

FIVE questions:

superGraffiti1. Do you see yourself described in any of these definitions?

2. Are YOU a superficial friend?

3. Do YOU have superficial faith?

4. Is YOUR commitment superficial?

5. How can a person change superficial into genuine / authentic?

“Hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs—beautiful on the outside but filled on the inside with dead people’s bones and all sorts of impurity. Outwardly you look like righteous people, but inwardly your hearts are filled with hypocrisy and lawlessness” Matt. 23:27-28.

We talk a lot about who we are, what we do and what needs to change in our church, community & world. But are we the solution to the problems that we see? Can we be counted upon? Note: “nobody ever asks me”is not an excuse. Choosing to serve, love, respect, give & care come from a pure heart & true motives. Thinking it & talking it is NOT the same as doing it.

Maybe the questions, today, are a bit intrusive to answer here on my blog… Ok, I get that… will you get with someone who REALLY knows you & talk through them??  IF you want to skip 1-4 and just answer 5, that’s ok. I’m just glad you’re here!



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7 responses to When SUPER isn’t SUPER

  1. 1. “appearing to be true or real only until examined more closely.” Being superficial in this sense I guess has always been an on and off battle for me. By that I mean that I am always a) fighting it or b) choosing to lose by not trying. It is way way way too easy for me to fake it and I know that. If I am going to be truly genuine in every area of my life, it is going to take determination and commitment to honesty.

    2. I really don’t fell that my friendships are an area I am generally superficial in, but I know that if I am allowing superficiality in other ares, it is bound to show up in my friendships as well even without it being intentional. 🙁

    3. Sometimes. Mainly when I choose to take “Breaks” instead of pushing on and deeper.

    4. This is another one that I have to be real careful if I am going to stay above it. Faking is a slipper slope that starts fast.

    5. I think pursuit of intimate relationship is really the key. First off, being deliberate about time with God daily, asking Him to search your heart. Secondly seeking out godly friendships with people you know are going to hold you accountable and ask you the tough questions you won’t ask yourself. Sometimes the best answer is a question.

    • There’s a word that stands out to me in your comments: DELIBERATE — I think this is the key. Being real doesn’t just happen, we must choose daily (or minute by minute) to live for God and serve others.
      thanks for being so transparent and answering ALL 5!

  2. 5) I think a huge part of changing from superficial to genuine has to do with obedience. Being obedient to what He’s called us to do, being good stewards with what we have already, being committed to the tasks at hand and realizing yes God does want to use me. We need to stop thinking the job of helping those in need is meant for someone else. God created us individually w our own specific purpose to help. I think we go start genuine and end up superficial because authenticity takes work and we lose our drive. So I totally agree w Bons, be deliberate in our time with God. We privilege to talk to him, that’s awesome.

    • Yes, another GREAT word: OBEDIENCE.
      ~ something I read this morning: “I have refused to walk on any evil path, so that I may remain obedient to your word.” Psalm 119:101

  3. 1 – 4 no. 5. Changing from superficial to genuine requires first the personal knowledge of what the difference is. Then the first step is to stop the denial and face the truth. Then repentance and full acknowledgement of my total dependence upon God to show me how to change. I have personally experienced all of these and thankfully am learning to more authentic each day.

    • Ahh, yes, another key word: REPENTANCE — not a one time thing, but a daily discipline.
      “The sacrifice you desire is a broken spirit. You will not reject a broken and repentant heart, O God.” Psalm 51:17

  4. So, so far, we have built a pretty good strategy for moving past being superficial:
    Deliberate Obedience and Repentance.
    ~ this is so good! Excited to see how this discussion grows!

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